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Using Your Will Power to Gain Happiness

Do you know what will power is? How often do you call on it to help you push through something? Understanding the true power within you will help you lead to happiness in your everyday life. Many people become unhealthy and unhappy because they cannot seem to find the key to getting all they want out of life. What I am suggesting is that everything you need in life lies inside of you. We need to learn how to call on this force called "will power."

I said the key to happiness come from will power and I meant it. Have you ever seen a little baby as it starts to develop, get upset because it is trying to do something and he or she can't seem to get the motor function down? What is the first thing that happens? The baby starts to cry right? Then I believe something starts to happen very profoundly at a young age. The baby either figures out how to use will power to get what he or she wants or it lies on its back screaming. I know it is hard to believe but I feel that many learn this young and go on to a prosperous life while some continue to struggle their whole life with it.

The reason I equate happiness with this subject is because as human beings, when we achieve, we are in a much better place. One of the best tools for this is our inner power. We need to understand how much is inside of us that we can pull from it. How many times have you been in a situation and thought to yourself, if only I could do this? What do you normally do next? For most people they will lay down and take what happens to them. For a few they will fight through it and come out strong. Those who come out strong have called upon what lies inside of the. This is what I playfully call the "Rocky Balboa" in us. You know what I mean if you have ever seen a Rocky movie. Somehow, some way, Rocky always finds a way to pull through. In the movie they call it heart, but in real life I call it will power.

For some, this strength also makes them stubborn in ways. This stubbornness will not let them lay down. This stubbornness makes them get up and go one more round. I had a friend once who was stubborn and he thought this was a good thing. The problem was it never helped him when he needed it. He was a person who always laid down and never fought. He just could not figure out how to pull his strength out from inside of him. He was just stubborn for the sake of being stubborn. It had no real value for him. 

I hope the next time you find yourself in a tough spot you will remember that you have what it takes to succeed. Do not lay down. Instead get up and push through. Life is already tough enough without you taking it. Fight for yourself so you can be as happy as you want to be.

Why Friendship Starts With the Letter "F"

What is the worse grade that you can receive in school? The letter "F" right? I wonder if it is any coincidence that the word friendship starts with the same letter as so many friends constantly fail to be "A" students in their friendships. Here is what grade you are:

A - This is the ultimate friend. They make being a friend easy. Everyone wants to be their friend because of the trust and the understanding they posses.

B - This is a decent friend but they still lack some fundamentals of friendship. All in all, they are decent friends.

C - This friend is neither outstanding nor horrible but does just the minimum as a friend. They have a moderate understanding of friendship but needs to work much harder to be a "real friend."

D. - This friend may not be a friend at all. You probably put up a bunch from them and they rarely contribute much goodness to the relationship. They lack most of the fundamental values needed for success.

F - Lacks every great quality that a friend should have. This should be a stop sign to turn around and run as they are probably very problematic and selfish. It's all about "me" with them and do not consider others. You will continually be let down by them and come up short. 

What does it mean to be a friend? I do not know your definition but mine would be as follows:

My friend will always accept my apology and will never have an issue apologizing back.

My friend knows I am not perfect and accepts me for me. My friend loves me at the end

of the day no matter how different our opinions may be. My friend will help me in a pinch no questions asked. My friend will tell me like it is no matter how harsh the truth may be. My friend

does not care about being right, just cares about doing right. My friend will not judge me but will 

not put up with me. My friend listens to me and has patience while I am talking. My friend is part         of my family. My friend will laugh with me, cry with me and fight with me. My friend is                         intelligent. My friend values others and does not trample on people's freedoms.  My friend will be         a friend no matter what.  

What is your definition of a friend? I think that for the most part we are missing what a friend really is. You should not have to work your butt off to be someone's friend. Yes, a relationship is hard work but being a friend should not be. Get to know someone before you judge them and start off wrong. Come to understandings in your friendship early on. For some new friends this is done verbally but with some it will just be understood. 

Good friends come in all packages. Keep your eyes open as you never know where your next friend will come from. My new friends are Australian and they are great people. Now when I think about Australia, i think about them. I would have never guessed I would have so much in common with an Aussie but he is like my twin. We do not need to talk about our understanding as friends. We already just get it. 

I hope from here on out you will take a moment to see what your grade is as a friend. I hope you are a straight A student but if not, you can fix that. Start with defining what you want in a friend and then be just that. 

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Why Small Businesses Fail – Pt.6

Why Small Businesses Fail – Pt.6      

The last part of why small businesses fail when it comes to employees is about the waste they commit and the bad publicity they will spread. Their poor attitudes can spread like cancer if gone unnoticed so we will take a brief look at what we need to do to protect our business. Also, watch who is in charge of ordering supplies, handling checks, and dealing with mail or your business will pay the price.

I once was going through a slump when one of my businesses was about to bust. I started looking at every aspect of my business. I found many things but what I found to be the most alarming was how much waste my employees were committing. I would watch individual employees for a span of 3-5 days. I would watch everything and not let them know I was watching them or tracking them. What I first looked at was in an 8-9 hour period, how much production were we really receiving as a company from that employee? After about 15 employees I discovered we were in trouble. The average employee was delivering about 5.6 hours a day of production. The rest was just wasted money down the drain. If you are paying eight hours then get your eight hours.

My office staff in particular would work more and more hours and still not be productive. They would have to work 11 hours a day to get close to 8 hours of production. I had to do something about it fast. Ultimately I ended up closing down the business because of what I am about to tell you next. It was the main reason I had such poor production from the staff.

A few years earlier I hire a friend of mine from softball and took him under my wing. There is a lot to this story but the moral of the story is the important part. As time had passed I made him an offer to become a partner in the business. In looking back it was a huge mistake of mine. One, he wasn’t mature enough. Two he wasn’t smart enough and three friends do not necessarily make good partners. Well, what I found out along the way was that he was breeding a culture in the business which contributed to the lack of production. He created chaos, confusion, friendships, and poor performance. Once you have this in your business and a culture gets bread like this, then it is next to impossible to remove. What you have to do is trace it back to its roots and cut it out. I should have done that a long time ago.

The next thing to be aware of is closely monitor who is authorized or allowed to order supplies. It is not the big money that gets you in trouble. It’s the nickel and dime stuff that will kill you. Monitor this close and remember these words…. Learn to say “no!” It will mean more profit later.

The last thing we will talk about is watch what is done with the mail. I would suggest, if it is possible, to have a separate person open the mail and enter it than your bookkeeper. This is a true story I had happen. I once had a bookkeeper who was horrible and would not open the mail and stuff it in a drawer. What this did was look like we had more money than we really did. When she was let go for poor performance we cleaned out her desk and found the mother load. Unfortunately it was not a good one. Heed my warning and set up a system of controls on your accounting.  Also, pay closer attention than I did and never get surprised.

Why small businesses fail is because business is complicated and it has so many moving parts. Being an entrepreneur is not for the weak at heart. Please leave a comment if you found this article helpful or if you had any other thoughts about it. Remember C.A.N.E.I. stands for constant and never ending improvement

Quotes by Abraham Lincoln

Below are famous quotes from Abraham Lincoln. Please enjoy the wisdom from long ago that still holds true today!

 

Always bear in mind that your own resolution to success is more important than any other one thing.

Abraham Lincoln

Force is all-conquering, but its victories are short-lived.

Abraham Lincoln

Tis better to be silent and be thought a fool,
than to speak and remove all doubt.

Abraham Lincoln

Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test
a man's character, give him power.

Abraham Lincoln

Personal Growth Tip #2

Always, always, take responsibility for what you do. No matter how painful or how demoralizing it may seem, taking responsibility for your actions is a self cleansing mechanism.

If you are ever going to learn then you need to be ready to take responsibility for your actions. The reason you want to always do this is that is how you will best learn from what has gone on. If you blame others then you have no action to execute. When you take responsibility then you have to deal with it in one or many ways. The process is not over at that point and you get top keep on working on yourself.

I can't tell you how many times in business I have to deal with people who spend their whole life pushing blame on others. Not once did they ever stop to think about why they keep ending up in the same miserable spot. It is always someone else who needs to deal with this as they are not responsible. I feel so sorry for them as those people do not realize all they are hurting is themselves. They are achieving no personal growth whatsoever. Instead they continue to live in a miserable state and never realizing what their life could really look like.

Do not allow yourself to give in to temptation to hide what you have done at least not to yourself. If you con yourself into believing you do not deserve what is going on then you will build in internal lies in which you will have to deal with. You can not hide from yourself so do not try.

Personal growth happens when we decide to do something about the way we are currently living or acting. When you decide to take responsibility for yourself, you then will be granting yourself permission to change your behavior. I hope you will decide to do just that this new year and be on your way to a prosperous life and much happiness.

Something to think about

Thomas Edison's teachers said he was "too stupid to learn anything." He was fired from his first two jobs for being "non-productive." As an inventor, Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. When a reporter asked, "How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?" Edison replied, "I didn't fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps."

The question becomes,"what is stopping you?"